How can conflicts be solved?

Conflicts are rancour that has tendencies of occurring one or a few times in a lifetime. Issues would always erupt from friends and families that might tend to last longer than normal leading to bigtime conflicts.

There are some principles that could help solve conflicts if followed.

1. Have an intimate conversation with the person: Do not just pick up your phone and intend to start a conversation because you feel its right for you. You need to ask the other fellow when and where would be convenient for them to have a talk. Also, try to be honest with them as possibly possible.
2. Listen carefully: There are so many people who talk, but few listen. One needs to listen carefully to whatever explanation the third party has to say when solving conflict. As much as you would want to listen, it is imperative to ask questions for clarification purposes when necessary.
3. Develop a plan to solve the conflict: Start with the most important conflict; you need not beat around the bush, just go straight to the point with precision and carefulness. Set up future meeting plans to continue the conversation if necessary; It could be possible that you might not resolve the conflict in one meeting, so, try to reschedule a future meeting.
4. Follow through on your plan: Try as much as possible to wheel off digressing from the bone of contention. Ensure you stick your nose into the course of the conflict to resolving it. Maintain a collaborative ” let-us-work-out-a-solution” attitude; the essence of coming together in the first place is to resolve the conflict, try to come up with a “how do we make things us with each other” attitude. More like the positive way forward.
5. Build on your Success: Look for opportunities to point out progress; after possible reaching of compromise between the two parties, ensure you both factor in some moments that would foster the relationship and make the bonds glue the more, for example going to the cinema, restaurants, playing games amidst others. Compliment the other person’s insight and achievement; try to see the good in what their plans for life and career are and make a constructive contribution. Congratulate yourselves for reaching a compromise.

Following these principles could help put a lifelong conflict to an end.