What excuse do people give for complaining?

Lol!

Complaining is very easy to do. See some reasons why people complain.

1. You Have To Talk About Negative Things To Solve Them

Analyzing an issue or criticizing bad behaviour in order to improve it is useful. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. What complaining implies is that there is no change as a result. It’s a negative talk for no purpose other than to talk negatively.

It always implies inaction. It doesn’t solve problems or change reality. It doesn’t provide solutions or life lessons to avoid the same problem in the future.

It simply places the blame on something and says “this sucks”. No shit, Sherlock. It’s easy to point fingers and blame everybody else for everything that’s wrong in the world. How about you try pointing that finger at yourself from time to time?

2.  The World Can Be Negative And You Can’t Avoid It

Holy smokes, Batman. I’m the first guy who will agree with this and give you a high five.

However, what does that have to do with complaining? Yes, there will always be negative things in the world. This doesn’t mean you should talk about them all the time. You can just as easily say that there will always be positive things in the world and talk about them all the time. But you won’t, will you?

I’m not trying to say you should be deluded into always being positive and not recognizing when things are objectively shitty. I’m simply trying to say that, for the most part, the things you complain about on a daily basis are unimportant and you are better off simply letting them go. They literally don’t matter unless you make them matter.

Just take a look at my story from the beginning. It can be a meaningless incident or a “near-death experience”; it all depends on how I choose to interpret it. On one hand, shit happens and it’s not a big deal. On the other hand, I’m a poor victim who is the centre of attention and deserves praise and pity.

Which of these do you think makes you look better?

3. Everybody Needs To Vent Sometimes, It’s Just Blowing Off Steam

Venting is the same as complaining and, especially in moments like these, it does more harm than good. It may make you feel a bit better at the moment but, in the long-run, it has been shown to increase negative perception, make you angrier, more agitated, and likelier to focus on problems rather than solutions.

It forces you to relive that same event and spend more energy on it. It brings all of those negative emotions back every time you talk about them and makes you increasingly more negative in general. This, in turn, makes you actively look for things to complain about, even if you aren’t consciously aware of it.

After a while, this negativity becomes your default state of mind. You become a cynical and negative person who complains a lot, but never solves any problems.