I would not completely be alienated from the fact that it is quite enigmatic to live a complain-free-life. But there are certain rules or guiding principles to help one live this kind of life.

A complaint is whenever you talk negatively about something or someone without proposing a solution to the problem.

Swearing and cursing count as “complaint qualifiers” and they are forbidden in these scenarios. Your quality of words often determines the quality of your thoughts.

Make the switch anytime you get flustered or annoyed, even if you don’t say it out loud. Self-control isn’t just about controlling your behaviour, but thoughts and emotions as well. If you don’t manage to stop yourself from complaining inside your head, make the switch.

The point is to stop getting worked up over nothing, not to just hide it from other people. If you start feeling annoyed, aim to immediately stop the thoughts from escalating and calm yourself down. Change your thoughts to “Okay, calm down. It’s not that important” and stop yourself from exploding (either internally or externally). If you manage to do this, do not make the switch.

In addition, once you see the possible need to complain, try to distract yourself. Do something that could ease you off mood to complain. It might be difficult to do, but, with continuous practise, one would gain mastery of not complaining.