What is sexual compatibility?
It’s the extent to which a couple perceives they share sexual beliefs, preferences, desires, and needs with their partner. Sexual compatibility with a partner has been shown to be related to sexual satisfaction, such that the more sexually compatible you are, the more sexually satisfied you are.
Sexual compatibility includes your:
- Definition of sex
- Frequency and duration of desired sex
- Preferred “environment” for sex
- Turn ons and turn offs
- Relationship orientation
The more similarities you have in your answers to those things, the more compatible you are.
One thing’s for sure: Sexual compatibility is important. It can be difficult to deal with a situation where one person feels that sex is essential in a relationship while the other person doesn’t want to have sex. Similarly, it can be difficult if one person has a high libido while the other person has a low libido. However, it’s not impossible to manage.
It is much more significant in the well being of a relationship than it is given credit for. Human beings need sex, sex is essential for our physical happiness. When couples are not able to fulfill each other’s sexual needs and desires, dissatisfaction in marriage is quite the obvious result. But our society has made sex into a taboo and couples find attributing sexual incompatibility as the reason for their divorce, embarrassing.
Many divorces and breakups happen because the sex was not good. Bad sex could be the result of something else that’s happening in the relationship. Therefore it is a symptom and not a condition. You can fix this situation by communicating with your partner. You two can share your interests and find a common desire.
To have everything else in a relationship and lack sexual satisfaction because your partner could never satisfy you no matter how hard they try, or if they would never even bother to do what it takes to gratify your sexual appetite is a disaster.
Better take it as seriously as you take every other aspect of the future of your relationship. A refusal to do this might end in the same bad ending you think you are avoiding.