Matchmaking services are so much these days, even dating sites aren’t left out from Tinder, Badoo etc. Matchmaking isn’t something new though, it has been in existence for years now.

Mothers searching for a good wife for their son abroad, some even do it with both parties in Nigeria.

Parents wanting their kids to marry each other, so you see it’s not a new thing though there has been a more improvised way to do it.

With a high increase in the number of people finding it hard to get hooked with a life partner, matchmaking is the new normal.

I have seen cases of couples who were matchmaked and it ended well while some ended on a bad note.

To me, there’s no difference between meeting someone online, and offline or through an agency and meeting them personally.

It boils down to individual characteristics, decades ago parents do this, and the couples end up together but now there’s science, and technology that makes little or no difference.

This is how matchmaking service works:

If you meet them on a site, you simply check each other’s interests, which is part of the information you fill in when signing up on the app. If you meet through a matchmaker, you tell him/her your preferences and they find someone that suits your interests.

You both go on a date and you report back to the matchmaker what you think about the person. The good thing about using a matchmaker is your partner to be is screened and they make sure the person matches your goals, values etc.

They provide counselling even after the date, and you both decide to take it further.

It also saves you so much time. Well, if you wish to find your other half online or through a matchmaker, there are several matchmaking services in Nigeria. Find any you want and Goodluck.

Relationship Anxiety is a term used for when someone feels insecure or have doubts about a relationship, either romantic or friendship.

As a Nigerian, Many of us experience this, but we don’t know It’s termed this way. We’ve seen cases of couples in the mall embarrassing each other just because the guy was looking at another girl while he is with his girl.

It’s totally normal has humans to have doubts or be anxious towards something, but in this case it becomes Persistent, and it could lead to certain problems with both parties involved.

What is the cause of Relationship Anxiety?

1: Low self Esteem: Having issues with your self-worth and value cab affect your relationship. You’ll constantly doubt your partner’s feelings towards you and even want constant reassurance.

2: Over Thinking: Your partner might not like PDA, but you  fancy it, you automatically think they don’t like you, but that is their preference. Overtime, this might make your partner start losing interest in the relationship or even friendship.

3 Waiting for something to wrong: You think things in your relationship are too good to be true, rather than appreciate the love you both have, you’re expecting something bad to happen, so you can finally say “I said it that this was too good to be true” You’re always focusing on the negatives.

4: Wanting to Break Up: You overstretch issues because you’re anxious, your partner did nothing wrong, but you just want to find a reason to call it quit.

5:  Experiences: A bad relationship or someone cheated on you, or you were taken advantage of. These and more can make you triggered and find it hard to trust a new partner or friend.

How to Deal With Relationship Anxiety

1: Talk to a therapist 

2: Let your partner be aware of what you’re going through 

3: Practice mindfulness

4: Communicate properly 

NB: Anxiety relationship is actually normal, you don’t need to feel like an outcast. If you’re willing to admit that you need help and want to be better. You’re good to go. Dealing with Anxiety doesn’t mean you won’t have doubts or worry anymore, but it’ll quiet the constant questioning.