Cheating in a relationship is one thing that’s quite rampant in our present society.  Not just in dating but also in marriage.

If you ask me, nothing justifies Cheating on your partner, someone you claim you love and respect. Sometimes I even wonder why you can’t you just end the relationship if you’ll cheat on your partner.

Why do people stay with a cheating partner, even after the hurt and disrespect? These are few reasons I think they choose stay;

1: They are scared of loneliness; This is a sign of codependency. They just can’t be alone emotionally, they constantly want to around someone to feel SAFE. These kind of people are likely to have self esteem issues and they are insecure. So rather than leave, they’ll stay out of fear of loneliness.

2: People change: There’s a popular saying “Change is constant”. If they feel remorseful about it they’ll definitely ADJUST.  They believe when you forgive someone let go and give the person change to be better. To love is to forgive.

3: There’s a hidden agenda: When people are hurt you can’t tell them how to grief. Many won’t leave the relationship but they’ll revenge. They’ll hurt the person back either physically or emotionally.

4: Financially Dependent: Sometimes the woman could be depending on the man or vice versa, so they stay to secure their finances even though they aren’t happy with them but we all money issue is a big problem.

5: It’s my fault: In this case the one who was cheated on thinks they are the cause. They start asking if there’s something they are not doing to satisfy their partner. They even go as far as telling their partner they’ll change even when it’s not their fault.

6: We will work out: There are people who believe even after cheating they can rise above it. They are ready to help their partner become better even if it means going for counselling. They still believe that things can work out fine and they can save the relationship.

In conclusion, if you find out your partner is cheating kindly have a one on one discussion on it. Whatever decision you think is right for you kindly go ahead, at the end your happiness is all that matters.

Splitting bills just became more occurrent this time due to gender equality. For decades men have always been expected to pay for the bills on a date. In Nigeria only few people go on dates and split bills, some women even find it disrespectful if you’re asking them to pay for half of the meal because you invited them on a date so you’re expected to cater for the bills.

Well if you ask me, the person who asks for the date should pay except both parties has agreed on splitting the bills. On the other hand some men expect the woman to at least offer to split the bills even though they’ll decline.

Also, many think that a man who offers that they split the bill isn’t man enough. Most women believe that if a man pays for their date, he is probably attracted to her because it’s part of creating a good first impression.

Sometimes if a man splits the bills with a woman, there’s high possibility of her refusing to go on a date next time, a risk he wouldn’t want to take, especially when they meet for the first time.

If you’ll be offering to split the bills don’t ask the other party pay for what they ate, the bills Should be splitted evenly. if you are the one inviting her for a dinner, you should select a restaurant or somewhere that suits your budget.

You don’t take your date to a high-end restaurant beyond your capabilities, and ask them to help you pay the bills at the end of the day. If your date decides to choose a place that is too high for your budget, you should avoid it, because you may run into gold diggers, which can be toxic and will only waste your time and money.

Compromise simply means giving up something to gain a level of understanding with your partner. Compromise means coming together and finding a solution that works for both parties. it shows that the relationship itself is more important than always being “right” or always wanting things to go your way. Everyone is unique, so it makes sense that two people coming together will always have problems. It’s a normal part of healthy relationships. For relationships to work, compromise is a non-negotiable part of love and is essential in every relationship.

Compromise is great in little doses, often necessary to defuse some raw aspects of a well-functioning relationship. Helping your partner run errands won’t harm . These compromises do not threaten our deepest needs, wants, and desires – the reasons we entered a relationship in the first place.

It’s when we start to compromise the core of who we are that the cracks in the foundation of the relationship start to appear. How to tell if you have given too much? If you feel that every decision is missing something important, if your thinking is vague, please pay attention to your body language. You may think that you are okay with the results, but cringing, not breathing enough, or becoming tense are the opposite signs, and you often ignore this.

When your partner makes a request or a compromise, ask yourself: can you be proud of this change? Can you learn by trying it? Does this match your personal values? Are they ready for a similar type of change? If you answered mostly yes to the latter, the request seems quite feasible.

Ultimately, if you feel good about yourself, your partner, and your relationship, you are probably able to compromise. But if you find yourself and your self-esteem isn’t good , ask yourself if you are compromising too much – you may just have to reconsider what’s going on in your relationship. Maintaining a relationship in which you always compromise and uncompromising on the main things will make you both unhappy. You will feel dissatisfied, sad, and empty. it is best to let it go. Sometimes giving up is better than sticking to an unhealthy and toxic relationship.